How to Coach Yourself and Others From Dependency to Inter Dependency

HABITS Habits can be learned and unlearned. “Lift off” takes a tremendous effort. But once we break out of the gravity pull, our freedom takes on a whole new dimension. By working on knowledge, skill and desire, we can break through to new levels of personal and interpersonal effectiveness and break with old paradigms that have been a source of pseudo-security for years. It’s sometimes a painful process. It’s a change that has to be motivated by a higher purpose, by the willingness to subordinate what you want now to what you want later. INTERDEPENDENCE THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE move us progressively on a maturity continuum from dependence to interdependence. DEPENDENCE -> = Paradigm of YOU You take care of me You make me happy If you didn’t come through, Then I blame you for the results. I NEED YOU TO GET WHAT I WANT = Paradigm of ME = Paradigm of WE I can do it I am responsible I am self – reliant I have the right to choose We can do it better We can cooperate We can combine our talents and abilities and create something greater together I CAN GET WHAT I WANT THROUGH MY OWN EFFORT I COMBINE MY EFFORTS WITH YOURS TO ACHIEVE A GREATER SUCCESS INDEPENDENCE -> INTERDEPENDENCE Interdependency is a choice only independent people can make. Habits 1 – 3 Move a person from dependency to independency and lead to increased self-confidence 1 : Be proactive 2 : Begin with the end in mind 3 : Put first things first Habits 4 – 6 Build on this independency to create effective interdependency and lead to better relationships 4 : Think win – win 5 : Seek first to understand, then to be understood 6 : Synergize Habit 7 This is the habit of maintenance and renewal: Sharpen the saw Habit 8 Represents another level of effectiveness, which will enhance the performance of each of the other seven habits: Find your voice and inspire others to follow.

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