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Here are the thoughts, actions and emotions of
unhealthy anger:
Thoughts

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"It's not my fault!"
Unhealthy anger means thinking you're a victim to
all "those other people.

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"They are bad/evil."
This may be the worst of unhealthy anger. This is
where you're trying to make the other person
really, really bad, so that you don't have to look at
yourself. We've all done this, but it's not cool. This
kind of thinking will only get you in trouble. With good anger
management skills, you will be a lot smarter than this.

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"I'm good because I'm not them."
This is what I call a cheap, second-hand form of self-esteem. It's great to
feel good about yourself, but you don't want to do it by dissing
somebody else. You're good just because of who you are. This is positive
anger management for people who want to be smart, strong and
healthy!

Actions

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Aggression, attack, violence.
A lot of people think this is what anger is: violence and aggression. But
you know better. Anger is an emotion, a