How to Coach Yourself and Others Empowering Coaching And Crisis Interventions | Page 64
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I wonder how the courage you developed when you learned how to ride a skateboard / play the guitar …
might help you with this current problem. What do you think?
3. Empower desired changes by giving clients credit, preparing for setbacks, exploring their plans to
continue positive changes, and using therapeutic letters and documents.
Examples of Giving Credit, Preparing for Setbacks, and Exploring Plans to Continue Positive Changes:
How did you manage to remain focused through the whole day? (giving credit for improvement); What will
it take to continue this? (exploring plans to continue positive changes); A lot of times things don’t change in
a straight line, but more like two steps up, one back, two up, three back, and so on. So let’s talk about what
you can do to get back on track when you hit rough spots along the way (inviting to prepare for setbacks).
4. Invite something different by changing the viewing and doing.
1. Changing the view:
Invite people to consider a different yet plausible view of the problem (Could it be that…?); Offer a different
motive or meaning for the behavior; Externalize the problem from the person.
For a person who views her aggressive behavior as a sign of strength and independence, invite her to consider
the possibility that the problem behavior reflects her desire for more attention from and connection with her
peers.
For a person who views another individual’s disruptive behavior as a p W'6