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This book is in B&W, not color - Print page in Grayscale for Correct view! Exploring details of the exception  What was different about that time?  How are you different then compared to other moments? Encouraging “more of” the exception  What will it take to do this again?  What will it take to do more of that next week?  I wonder what would happen if you tried this approach during other moments throughout the day?  Are you willing to try it? Example: Congratulations on changing your behavior last week. I’d like to learn more about what you did to make things better. Your ideas and advice will help me in my work with other peoples who are struggling with similar challenges. I look forward to learning more from you." b/ Search for other Natural Resources: Listen, look for, ask about resources you can build on. Listen, examine records, reports, and other information with an eye toward discovering resilience, cultural factors, special interests, and other potentially useful resources; Listen, look for, and ask about “natural resources” in the indivual’s life (cultural heritage, life experiences, resilience, heroes and influential people, special interests); Incorporate their natural resources into interventions (inviting a respected grandparent to a meeting, building on their solution ideas or advice to others, incorporating their special interests and talents into counseling conversations and interventions. Examples: The only thing I care about are my friends and my music. I wouldn’t come to school at all if it wasn’t for art class and Ms. Baxter.”);  How have you kept things from getting worse?  Of everyone who knows you, who would be most surprised that you’re having this problem? - Why would they be surprised?  Who do you look up to most in your life?  Who are your biggest heroes? - What would they do if they were in your shoes?  Who do you respect the most? - What would he or she advise you to do about this?  Who else is on your “support team” and how might they help you with this problem?  How have you managed to hang in there instead of giving up?  How have you kept things from getting worse?  If you were a counselor, what advice would you have for others who are dealing with this type of problem? Incorporate the natural resources into interventions. Ask how the individual has handled other tough challenges (resilience), and explore how one or more of the resources that helped them through a previous challenge might help them with the current problem. Request the involvement / advice of influential people in the person’s life by calling them, asking them to speak with the individual, or inviting them to a counseling session or meeting; Explore connections between the individual’s hobbies and special interests (skateboarding, music) and solutions to the problem For [email protected] Property of Bookemon, do NOT distribute 63