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- Awareness of one's freedom and the consequences of accepting or rejecting that freedom
- An extremely pleasurable or hurtful experience that leaves one seeking meaning.
2. Choose the meaning of your life. Existentialism posits that each individual is empowered to choose the
parameters of his or her existence. Choosing to add meaning to your life yourself, without the help of anyone
else, can ultimately help you resolve an existential crisis. Below are some methods that can help.
Method 1 of 2: The Last Messiah Method
Norwegian philosopher Peter Wessel Zapffe contends that the human self-conscious is actively engaged in the
"repression of its damaging surplus of consciousness," and offers four ways of doing so. They are:
1. Isolation: Dismiss all upsetting or negative thoughts and feelings from your consciousness and actively
deny them.
2. Anchoring: Combat feelings of isolation by "anchoring" your consciousness to fixed values or ideals, such
as "God, the Church, the State, morality, fate, the laws of life, the people, the future." Focusing your
attention on these things (whether you support or contradict them) can help you feel like your consciousness
is not adrift, or as Zapffe said, build "walls around the liquid fray of consciousness."
3. Distraction: Keep your thoughts from turning to distressing ideas by filling your life with distractions.
Focus all your energy on a hobby, project, job, or other outlet that can consume your thoughts
4. Sublimation: Refocus your energy toward positive creative outlets, such as music, art, literature, or any
other activity that you find allows you to express yourself.
Method 2 of 2: Other Methods
1. Understand what caused the problem. The issue is not your thoughts — it is your attachment to the
thoughts. Your thoughts (and the language in which you experience them) come from your conditioning, your
society, your reaction to experiences.
2. Try to see life and your place in it as it really is. Question everything and attempt to see past all social,
political, spiritual and personal conditioning and falsehoods.
3. Acknowledge that this is a common problem. Know that we humans often feel that we are stuck in a game
designed and controlled by others who do not have your or humanity's best interests in mind. When you're in
crisis, it looks like others succeed through ignorance, fear and the ability to lead you around by the nose.
Research the history of civilization and how this rat race began, and how it is perpetuated, then begin to
formulate your own understanding as to where it may be heading.
4. Consider how well orchestrated life seems to be. Some type of consistency does appear to exist, at least on
a micro level.
5. Stop comparing yourself to others. Your ability to experience joy will grow dramatically when you stop
comparing yourself to other people and only compare yourself to yourself, if to anyone at all. In an ironic twist
of fate, this can be achieved incrementally by holding a more stoic subjectivity.
6. Don't be afraid to make up your own rules. Remember to let go of "should" — you are in charge. (This
message is a "should", so take it with a grain of salt.) You are the lightning of your values, and don't forget that,
ultimately, value is genetically grounded in the body, even if it appears to be emotion. If you feel anxiety about
"what to do", now that nobody else is telling you what to do, that's the most exciting part of the journey ...
remember childhood? Mystery? Adventure? Smelling new smells and feeling new fabrics? New foods? Do
something to improve your experience of joy.

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