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Observation Cues:
“When I see …”
“When I hear …”
“When I recall seeing/hearing …”
“When I imagine seeing/hearing …”
Examples:
“When I see you reading the newspaper …”
“When I hear you say, ‘I’ll never amount to anything,’ …”
“When I remember seeing you hit the table with your fist, …”

Observation Check:
Is my observation free of evaluation?
Can my observation be recorded by the lens of a movie camera or the mike of a tape recorder?
Does my observation contain words such as “always,” “never,” “whenever,” “constantly,” etc.? …
am I using these words factually or evaluatively?

Taking Responsibility for our Feelings
We take responsibility for our own feelings by connecting them to the need within us that is either
being met or not met. For example, "I am disappoint