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beliefs. Only one solution : Don’t see them any more, avoid them,
eliminate all witnesses to your past lack of success.
2.4 Surf on Troubles
Whatever you do, you will come across difficult experiences in your
current situation. For example, you know that an event will go badly.
For avoiding to built up a new negative experience, you will cross
the event as if you were outside it, as if you were not concerned.
For this purpose, you will use the anchoring method that relies on
using a stimulation (image or gesture) that automatically provokes
an internal representation. For example: Seeing a blackboard (visual
anchor) inspires classroom memories. Listening to a song inspires
memories of a party (auditory anchoring) .
The stimulation may be visual : remove your glasses, auditory :
listen to a song, kinaesthetic: Tighten your fists. Its aim is to produce
when needed the desired emotional state to deal with a given
situation.
For implementing an anchoring, use the following technique:
As soon as you have reached the relaxation stage, keep it and
associate a simple movement with your image resource, like for
example, clenching the fist. Restart the operation as often as possible
to create a conditioned reflex.
Subsequently, each time that you need your image resource, clench
your fist. This gesture will help you to find it, without having to put
yourself in a relaxed state.
When you are confronting a painful event, clench your fist, call your
image resource. Focus on your image resource and cross the event as
though it did not concern you. When the event is finished, all that
will remain is a dissociated image and not an associated one that
would harm your subconscious.
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