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2. Analysing reality:
2.1 Autobiography.
What do you do when you start a new day? You shower and you
wash your body. Now, you are starting a new life: You have to clean
your reality. Reality is made up of two things: Your past and your
present condition
Your present condition is influenced by your past. As the past no
longer exists, it is above all your memories that explain your current
state. You are going therefore to examine your past or more
precisely the memories and beliefs that you have of it.
Take a pen and paper and write down your life from the beginning.
Write down your life chronologically, breaking it down into distinct
periods: Childhood, learning period, studies, first job etc. Analyze
each period and look for:
• What you wanted at the time
• What was your most outstanding feeling
For example, look at the following imaginary autobiography of a
young man that we shall call John:
1970-1975: I don’t remember much of my early childhood. I had 2
brothers and 3 sisters. My mother was very busy. My father came
home late and beat us. My little brother was very funny. We had
good times together. I don’t have good memories of this period
because of my father.
1975-1987: I started primary school. I learned to read, write and
count quickly. My teacher was very nice. Later, I wanted to be a
building engineer. Overall, I have good memories of school.
1987-1993: I went to high school. I had great difficulty with
literature. In 1990, I went to a vocational to become an accountant.
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