Love & Relationships
Dear DiAnne
Dear DiAnne,
Dear Reader,
One thing my husband
and I always hear from married
couples is we should surround
ourselves with other Godly
married couples, just to be sure
we have a group of like-minded
friends. We did that. Here’s
the problem, I now find myself
comparing our marriage to
theirs, and frankly, they seem
as if they have it all together,
and we don’t. Are we missing
something?
—Reader
We’ve all been there at some point in our lives.
I think the name of the road we travel down is called
Comparison Street. I understand. The thing is, you don’t
get to hang out on that street, you have to eventually
move to a street that reminds you that you, your marriage, your family dynamics and everything that comes
with it is different from anyone else’s. Let’s call that
street, Unique Street, and let’s live there for a minute.
I remember bringing my second child home from
the hospital at a whopping 5 pounds! He’d been in
the NICU for over 2 months, because he was born at
one pound and nine ounces. When it came to reaching physical milestones, my son was a little bit behind.
Emotionally and mentally, he was way ahead of even his
older brother’s progress, but he crawled late. He walked
late. He didn’t even venture to run until he was well
into kindergarten. He was very different from his older
brother, who I’d swear came out of the womb in a track
stance. After I had my third child, a little girl, I was finally
convinced that while milestones are helpful for parents
tracking the progress of their children, one couldn’t
necessarily hold to those milestones as law. Why? Well,
because every child is unique.
It’s the same with marriage. You see, at the start
of a marriage, two whole people come together to make
34 HimPower August 2015