Healing and Hypnotherapy Volume 8, Issue- 5, 1 November 2023 | Page 29

6 . Reach out for support
The narcissist may have isolated you from family and friends , but you need their support more than ever when you ’ re leaving the relationship . If you ’ re leaving a narcissist , open up to your closest family and friends . Tell them what has been going on and why you ’ re leaving the relationship . Having supportive people in your corner can give you the strength to leave .
7 . Recognise your strengths
If the narcissist has convinced you that you are the problem and that no one will ever love you if you leave , it ’ s time to sit down and recognise your strengths . After all , the narcissist was drawn to you for a reason : they saw you as being special and capable of meeting your needs .
You are probably someone who cares for others and makes sacrifices for the good of the people you love . Remember this , and accept that you are worthy of a healthy relationship .
8 . Stop trying to Fix them
A relationship with a narcissist may continue forever because you ’ ve come to believe that you can fix them or that if you just do a better job of loving them , everything will be okay . Unfortunately , this isn ’ t true .
There is nothing you can do to fix a narcissist . No amount of love or adoration will end their abusive behaviours until they decide that they are ready to heal from whatever has made them harm the people who love them the most .
9 . Take care of yourself
After enduring a narcissistic relationship , you are probably left with anxiety , sadness , and distress . All of this can leave you feeling exhausted , and chances are that you haven ’ t been doing a very good job caring for yourself amid your relationship problems . Now is the time to focus on yourself . Take time to eat properly , get some exercise , and do things you enjoy . As you care for yourself , moving on from the relationship will become easier .
10 . Take legal measures
Hopefully , things will not get to this point , but because narcissists often do not take no for an answer , you may have to quite literally force them out of your life . This can mean Dling for a protection order or evicting them from the property if they live with you .