Radical mindfulness for your partner
caught in the merry-go- round of these intense emotions but give yourself the ticket
2 . Cultivate awareness . You cannot know what you do not know . One way mindfulness empowers people is by creating space to learn . When you quiet your mind and heart , you are in a state of being able to receive information from your body , your deeper consciousness , and your environment . Spending 10 minutes each day giving yourself a little recharge by quietly clearing your mind can allow the wisdom of your body to teach you just what you need to find peace . Instead of being defensive about how you respond to your partner and how you wish you or your partner were different , accept these circumstances as reality . You can work toward growth while accepting wherever you are on the journey of growth .
3 . Re-evaluate . This part of mindfulness is my personal fa‐ vorite . As you become more aware , accepting , and curious , you can gain powerful insight about who you are , what you want , and how you need to change to find the meaning in life and in relationships that you desire . That is radical . You don ’ t need a genie in a bottle to gain your three wishes . You need 10 minutes of purposeful solitude [ ii ], and the genie is you . You have untapped wisdom , untapped grit , untapped calm .
For example , instead of worrying about how sexy you aren ’ t , notice that your partner desires you and loves you as you are . That re-evaluation creates powerfully transformative thoughts .
Radical mindfulness for your partner
1 . Accept your partner . We have all wanted to change our partner at some point . That ’ s natural . We see their potential . We want the best for them . However , allowing them to be who they are is part of radical mindfulness . Judgment and criticism make it more difficult for those around us to reach their potential . When individuals feel acceptance and room to be who they are , they feel more connection and love .
2 . See your partner . When you use radical mindfulness with your partner , you see them fully . You see their flaws and im‐ perfections , but you also acknowledge their strengths and core qualities . You accept that you can ’ t change or “ fix ” them . Let that idea go . There is no need to “ fix ,” and it isn ’ t your responsibility to do that .
3 . 3 . Believe in your partner . You can control your responses to them and even your thoughts about them . But you can ’ t control how they think , feel , or behave . Trust that they want your happiness and look for evidence of