Radical acceptance in relationships
Radical mindfulness
Radical Mindfulness and Sex
How facing reality can help improve your sexual experience .
KEY POINTS RUNNING FROM REALITY ONLY BRINGS SORROW . BE AUTHENTIC IN DISCLOSING YOUR EMOTIONAL STRUGGLES , AND THIS WILL PROVIDE AN OPPORTUNITY FOR GROWTH . FACING THE REALITY OF OUR RELATIONSHIP GIVE SPACE TO SOLVE PROBLEMS INSTEAD OF LETTING THEM SIMMER .
There is a therapeutic tool called Dialectical Behaviour Therapy ( DBT )[ i ], which includes something called radical acceptance . This term caught my attention . What is so radical about acceptance ? Radical acceptance is described as a process of mentally walking yourself through the reality of a situation and calmly accepting that reality . So , what if this situation is really as bad / unpleasant / lonely as you fear ? Face that reality , and recognise that you are capable and can face the truth of your situation .
If this doesn ’ t seem radical to you , it may be because you already practice this strategy . Radical acceptance helps alleviate the distress and suffering that we all feel when we try to avoid or change reality . When we automatically feel agitation or annoyance , we can pause , take a breath , and deal with the reality of the conflict instead of avoiding it .
Radical acceptance in relationships
Here are some examples in which we pretend , deny , or rail against reality :
Pretending that accommodating a selfish partner will fix the problem Denying that you have a part in the conflict of your relationship Feeling angry because your unspoken needs aren ’ t met It ’ s easy to see how trying to avoid or change reality doesn ’ t usually help us or our relationships . Radical acceptance in relationships is particularly important , as close relationships are often where we are challenged emotionally .
Radical mindfulness
One way to process reality and cope with the painful parts of who we are or the problems in our relationships is to practice being more mindful . In fact , we may need some radical mind‐ fulness . Radical mindfulness is not denying