A 12-Point Relationship Checklist
A quick assessment guide for what might be causing your therapy client ' s relationship problems or even yours - who is reading it .
“… a morass of treachery , theft , broken promises , lies , evasions , bluff , trickiness , bullying , deliberate misunderstanding and shabby attempts to get an opponent into a false position .” – A . A . Milne
No , the famous creator of Pooh Bear was not describing a marriage gone south , but rather his take on the shoddy business of international politics . But “ as above , so below ” – truth holds good on different levels . The underlying issues in a relationship may not be quite as sinister as the above quote would suggest , but certainly it is worth digging a bit deeper to see what kind of behaviours or attitudes may be perpetuating a sense of malcontent in a relationship . Here I want to give you a set of questions that can act as a kind of checklist to help judge what might be going wrong if your client ’ s relationship is suffering . And boy , do people suffer .
The light of life
Good intimate relationships are deeply healthy to the extent that they may even help us live longer . 1 Deep loving , intimate , trusting , fun and fruitful