Talking to Engaged Children About Sex : Preparing Them for the Adventure
A woman and her fiancé who were reserving sex for marriage were relieved and excited when her OB-GYN invited them both to a premarital counseling appointment . They had lots of questions about what to expect , and wanted to know how to start their sexual relationship off on the right foot . Imagine their dismay when the doctor launched in to an extended metaphor about women being more like “ violins ” and men more like “ fiddles ” in the bedroom , and then promptly ended the appointment . Using metaphors for something as deeply meaningful as sex is never a good idea . We need to talk plainly and openly when teaching children about sex . There is no time more critical for clear communication than before your child embarks on this beautiful adventure with their new spouse .
Waiting until marriage to begin a sexual relationship makes a lot of sense . And if you have a good relationship with your children , you can give them the wonderful gift of additional clear , timely guidance before they walk down the aisle . If possible , talk to both your child and their fiancé together , but let your