How can we change the world , and why do we assume that we are the ones to do it ? What does " being a success " mean ? Just getting what you want ? Or helping others live better ?
Adolescent depression and suicide has skyrocketed in recent years .[ 7 ] And again , I ' m not suggesting desire to be famous or adored for its own sake is the only factor in the sharp rise in depression , but it certainly may be one factor . It is depressing to realize , as you progress through life , that adulation doesn ' t come easily at all .
The phrase " be careful what you wish for " has become so overused that it ' s easy to forget what it really means . And yet all we have to do is flip open a magazine to find images of empty , depressed , even destroyed celebrities who seem to have it all but feel they have less than nothing , because they never really could catch up to their shadows .
Having a creative vision and following it artistically because you want to serve it , and foster it , and ' bring it into the light of the Sun '; learning how you might help and be helped by your community ; and thinking less of any ripple effects of approval or money that might come to you as a result - this is what makes for more genuinely fulfilling lives .
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Aspirations need to be aligned to a sense of self-efficacy . We need to work towards goals for their own sake , as opposed to wanting to be famous but not really knowing why .
We can ask our clients ( and ourselves ) to what extent their aspirations are , if at all , removed from their expectations .