Healing and Hypnotherapy Volume 6, Issue- 1, 1 July 2021 | Page 29

" I would love a big house by the sea !" might prompt the questions " Where would that be ? How could you attain that and what might be the steps towards that ? Do you expect to get that ? Is that an aspiration , an expectation , or both ?"
Next , we can ask how much self-efficacy they have in regard to moving towards their goal . What kind of actions might that goal be a side effect of ?
To what extent can your client work towards turning their aspirations into expectations and then realities ? Really help them think about what is and isn ' t under their control .
We can learn so much by delving into people ' s aspirations and expectations . How wide is the gap between aspiration and expectation ?
For your client , the takeaways from your work on aspirations and expectations should be :
* Work out how big the gap is between your aspirations and your expectations , and consider whether the size of the gap may have been depressing you .
* Disentangle your aspirations from your expectations .
* Work to increase your self-efficacy so that you can bring your aspirations and expectations closer together .
* Drop the parts of your aspirations that are beyond your control , such as what others will think of you , how they will react to your success , or even what you will ' get ' beyond the satisfaction of doing your best work .

" I would love a big house by the sea !" might prompt the questions " Where would that be ? How could you attain that and what might be the steps towards that ? Do you expect to get that ? Is that an aspiration , an expectation , or both ?"

Next , we can ask how much self-efficacy they have in regard to moving towards their goal . What kind of actions might that goal be a side effect of ?

To what extent can your client work towards turning their aspirations into expectations and then realities ? Really help them think about what is and isn ' t under their control .

We can learn so much by delving into people ' s aspirations and expectations . How wide is the gap between aspiration and expectation ?

Minding the gap

For your client , the takeaways from your work on aspirations and expectations should be :

* Work out how big the gap is between your aspirations and your expectations , and consider whether the size of the gap may have been depressing you .

* Disentangle your aspirations from your expectations .

* Work to increase your self-efficacy so that you can bring your aspirations and expectations closer together .

* Drop the parts of your aspirations that are beyond your control , such as what others will think of you , how they will react to your success , or even what you will ' get ' beyond the satisfaction of doing your best work .