Healing and Hypnotherapy Volume - 4, issue 9 1 March 2020 | Page 12

anyone had ever done was project their ideas and beliefs onto me, none had
ever seen me. 
As I held this shaking child within me, it dawned on me how thankful I was to
find an emotionally mature partner, someone who could see me. And also,
how unspeakably sad it is for a child to be born into a family who is
technically present, but offer little in the way of help, protection, or comfort. 
As decent human beings, it’s our job, our duty, to learn and evolve. But
emotionally immature people are stuck in a stagnant standstill; refusing to
deal with our shared emotional reality due to their own unresolved inner
wounds.
19 Signs Your Parents Are Emotionally Immature
To our inner child – the young and vulnerable place within us – coming to
terms with the ugly truth about our parents can be terrifying. It can feel like a
grievous betrayal of trust. After all, we still want to please our mommy and
daddy, right? (On some level, most of us continue to feel that way.) 
But at some point, we need to step into the role of adult, take our inner child
by the hand, and go on a journey of healing. This journey requires us to pull
apart our childhood, piece by piece, and examine how it impacted us (this is
the crux of inner child work, by the way). 
For many people, the journey toward true adulthood, or what psychoanalyst
Carl Jung referred to as individuation, starts with shining the spotlight on our
parents.
So let’s begin.
Here are nineteen signs your parents are emotionally immature:
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They are self-preoccupied and self-involved
They have dramatic (but shallow) displays of emotion
They are killjoys: they can’t enjoy their children’s happiness 
They focus on the physical instead of emotional
They can’t experience mixed emotions ( which is a sign of emotional
maturity) but instead experience only black or white emotions
They can’t self-reflect or think about their thinking (a form of higher
intelligence) because it’s too emotionally threatening
They’re only comfortable if conversation stays on an impersonal and
intellectual level
They expect you to read their minds and know what they need, but
push you away when you try to help