Healing and Hypnotherapy Volume - 4, issue 9 1 March 2020 | Page 11

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Value your individuality
Are self-reflective (and willing to change)
Are interested in getting to know you
Can laugh and be playful
Can listen attentively and compassionately
Emotionally mature people are, overall, nice to be around. You feel safe and
truly seen in their presence. There is a sense of reciprocity and genuine
interest in learning more about you. There is no need to walk on eggshells
around them as they are even-tempered, flexible, and down-to-earth. These
good-natured and empathetic souls are not scared of emotional complexity or
intensity but instead embrace it with love.
Being Raised By Emotionally Immature Parents is Traumatic
Stop for a moment and let me ask you this question: how many of the above
characteristics did your parents possess?
If you answered less than five, no doubt about it, you have an emotionally
immature parent.
Now, I’m not here to condemn your parents or reinforce a victim/persecutor
complex. I’m here to help you face the truth about your childhood and how to
overcome the trauma you’ve likely undergone because of it. 
There’s no getting around it.

It wounds us on a deep level to not be truly seen, heard, or valued.
Something within us is suffocated when we are emotionally and
psychologically neglected. Something within us breaks when we experience
the unfathomably deep loneliness of never being truly seen.
In my own experience of being raised by two emotionally immature parents,
one of the most debilitating and profoundly painful wounds I’ve carried has
been an unshakable sense of emptiness, loneliness, and fundamental
abandonment.
It was only recently when I discovered how soul-deep these traumas cut
when, on holiday, I collapsed into a shaking ball of sobs and loud weeping
that gushed from me like intense tidal waves. I suddenly realized that I had
never truly felt like I existed. I suddenly realized that I had never truly felt
seen. No one, not a single soul, had ever truly seen me – not my siblings, my
extended family, my friends, my teachers, and certainly not my parents. All