Harmony in Marriage
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sincere does he not? How can things work when there is no
sincerity?
Questioner : The husband repeatedly asks for
forgiveness, but he also carries on the affair with his mistress.
What then?
Dadashri : When the husband asks for forgiveness, can
you not understand that he is suffering, with helplessness
beyond his control? So you have to let go. It is not that he has
acquired a habit of doing this. He has not become habituated.
He too does not like it, but what can he do? These things
happen against his wil l. Errors are made in this way, are they
not?
Questioner : What should one do if the husband has
become habituated to such marital infidelity?
Dadashri : What can you do? Can you throw him out?
If you throw him out, there will be uproar in the community. On
the contrary you have to keep it a secret. What else can you
do? Do we keep our gutters covered or do we keep them
open? Are these gutters to be kept covered or kept open?
Questioner : They have to be kept covered.
Dadashri : Otherwise if we keep them open, the foul
stench will give you a headache.
Questioner : Why do the women wear chandlo (red
dot in the center of the forehead)? Many American women ask
me why Indian women wear chandlos.
Dadashri : This red dot in the middle of the forehead is
very close to the inner mind and by wearing it, our women have
the noble aim of keeping their mind only on their husband.
These women will not leave or be insincere to their husband
even if they have major clashes. The ones who traditionally do