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Harmony in Marriage
husband and wife whichever way you can.
Questioner : Dada, nowadays no one does this.
Especially now that women are educated, they have discarded
such practices.
Dadashri : The husbands are declared the Lord. Just
look at them, they are the ones who wrote the books, so who
is going to question them? They have turned everything on their
side. It should not be this way.
Questioner : The women of today do not respect their
husbands, as did the women of the past.
Dadashri : Yes, the husbands of the past were like Lord
Rama and now they have become Mara! (Ma-ra opposite of
Ra-ma) They have no qualities of Lord Rama.
Questioner : What is the wife’s obligation towards her
husband? Please explain this.
Dadashri : She should be sincere to her husband. The
husband should tell his wife, “If you were to be insincere with
me, then I would lose my head.” You have to caution her. You
have to tell her to beware, but do not pressure her into being
sincere. You should remain sincere to each other all your life.
Day and night, you should be thinking about him only. You
should be concerned about him all the time. Only then will your
life together run well.
Questioner : If the husband is not sincere and the wife
loses her mind, will she bind karma?
Dadashri : If she loses her mind, they will both suffer.
As much as possible, you should not lose your mind. If it was
not the husband’s intent to be insincere and he makes a
mistake, then he should ask for forgiveness and reassure her
that he will not make the same mistake again. A man has to be