Harmony in Marriage
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expectations, you will never be disappointed. Having no
expectations means that there isn’t any need to fulfil anything.
He who has needs, has expectations.
Questioner : What are we to do if, no matter how silent
we remain, the men continue to get angry?
Dadashri : When he gets angry and you want to start a
quarrel, then you too, should get angry, otherwise, you should
put an end to it. If you want to stop the ‘film,’ then remain calm.
If you don’t want to stop the ‘film,’ then carry on fighting all
night long. Who is preventing you? Do you like such ‘films’?
Questioner : No I don’t like such ‘films’.
Dadashri : What is the use of getting angry? It is not the
person who is getting angry, it is the alteration of the
“mechanical adjustment” (the physical complex of thoughts,
speech and actions that was charged in the past life) that
initiates anger. He himself is not getting angry. Later on he
regrets his anger.
Questioner : What is the solution to calm him down?
Dadashri : When a machine gets hot, you have to let it
cool down. If you leave it alone for a little while it will eventually
cool down. But if you disturb it or prod it, you will get burnt.
Questioner : My husband and I get into quarrels and
verbal tiffs, what should we do?
Dadashri : Who gets angry first, you or him?
Questioner : He does, but then later on, I do too.
Dadashri : You have to scold yourself from within. Ask
yourself why you are behaving in such a manner, and then
remind yourself that in the end, you will have to suffer the
consequences of your actions. With pratikraman all the