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Harmony in Marriage
know how to utilize their abilities. All these are weaknesses in
people. To get angry is a weakness.
If while you were walking, a stone fell from the top of a
building and hit you on the head, would you get angry?
Questioner : No, that just happens.
Dadashri : No, but why is it that you do not get angry
in this situation? Because you do not see anyone involved here.
Questioner : No one has thrown the stone on purpose.
Dadashri : Therefore, we do have control over our
anger. Once we know that no one has thrown the stone on
purpose, we are able to control our anger. The control is
definitely there. However, people say, “Anger overcomes me.”
That is wrong! Say that was true, why then do you remain calm
in certain situations and get mad in other situations? If a
policeman gets angry with you, why do you not get angry at him
in return? You get angry with your wife, with your children, with
the neighbours, and with those who work under you, but why
don’t you get angry with your boss? Anger does not overcome
a man. It all occurs because he wants to do everything
according to his own wishes.
Questioner : Whether it is at home or amongst friends,
when things do not go according to our plan, due to differences
of opinions, why do we get angry? What should we do about
that?
Dadashri : What would happen if everyone tried to do
things according to their expectations? How can one even
afford to think like this? You should immediately realize that if
everyone tried to do things their way, there would be nothing
but chaos and conflict. At no point in time should you try to do
things according to your expectations. If you do not have any