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Harmony in Marriage
Dadashri : She will become silent when you bring up
Dada’s name; there is no other weapon. Use this weapon
freely.
A lady once said to me, “When I got married, my
husband was very dominant.” I asked, “How is he now?” She
proceeded, “Dada, you know all about women’s behaviour, so
why are you making me say it? When he wants some happiness
from me, I tell him to address me as ‘master’. In this way I
make him do what I want. What fault is it of mine? Before he
used to make me call him ‘master’, and now I make him say
it.”
When a powerful officer came home after a frustrating
day at work, his wife said, “You are an hour and half late!
Where have you been?” Just look at this, a man with lion-like
qualities being scolded, a man whom the whole state of Gujarat
fears, being scolded like a child. Nobody dare cross him, and
yet his own wife did not respect him and not only that, she even
reprimanded him. So one day I told her, “What if this husband
of yours were to leave you alone and go out of town for a
fortnight or so?” She said she would be scared. Now what is
she scared of? So she tells me, “When I hear a noise in the
other room, I think that there may be is a ghost there.” I told
her, “You get scared even if a mouse knocks something over,
but if your husband were in the house you would not feel
scared. You keep scolding and nagging at him, to the point
where he feels like nothing. You reduce this lion of a husband
of yours to nothing but a sheep!”
One man bought a mare for three thousand rupees.
Everyday he used to sit on the mare. One day his twenty-four
year old son rode the mare to the local pond. He teased the
horse a little. Is a three thousand rupee mare supposed to be
teased? Rather than being teased or instigated, she must be