Harmony in Marriage
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allowed to walk in her own style and at her own pace. When
the son teased her, she pounced and as she did that, the young
man fell to the ground. So what did he say when he got home?
“Sell this horse, the horse is bad!” He is the one who does not
know how to sit on the horse and he is blaming the horse! The
definition of a dominant husband is the one who blames and
belittles the horse because he does not know how to sit on her
or ride her. Should you not know how to treat your wife?
If a husband opposes his wife just once, he loses his
dignity. The wife will lose respect for him. If your household is
running smoothly, the children are doing well in school, and you
have no other bothers and yet you scold your wife and find
faults with her, then your wife will lose respect for you. She will
know that you have no substance.
You do not know how to deal with the ladies. If you, as
a shopkeeper, do not know how to deal with your customers,
they will not come to you. Don’t people say, “Hire a good
salesman.”? If the salesman is good, handsome, and clever, then
people would be willing to pay more. In the same manner, you
should know how to conduct your dealings with your wife.
It is because there is a presence of a woman, that this
world has warmth and joy in it. Otherwise in your household
you would be worse than a hermit. The cleaning and sweeping
would not be done in the morning. There would be no signs of
tea, or breakfast. It is only upon the instructions of the wife, that
one takes a timely bath. It is because of her that there is a glow
and warmth in the home; and her joy is because of him.
Women have a tremendous tolerance for pain and
suffering. Even when times are very difficult and there is grave
suffering, she will tell her husband, “Don’t be afraid, just go to
sleep, why are you making yourself unhappy?” She will pacify
him.