Harmony in Marriage
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you under her thumb (wrapped around her finger). If you get
angry, she will know that you have become weak, but if you
don’t get angry, then she will try harder.
If, despite her continued arguing, the husband does not
get angry, then she will go into the kitchen and throw a few
utensils around to make noise… Bang…bang!! When he hears
the noise he will get upset, but if he does not, then at this point,
she will pinch their little toddler and make him cry. Then he will
get angry! “You are after our son now? Why are you bringing
our son in the middle of this?” Then she will be satisfied, “Ah
ha! Now he is defeated!”
Men forget events, whereas women will hold on to them
their entire lives. Men are naive, open-minded, and forgiving.
They will forget. Women on the other hand will keep reminding
you of what you said the day of the fight. Heavens! Even after
twenty years, her memory is so fresh. Your son is now twenty
years old, old enough to get married, yet she continues to hang
on to that incident. Everything except for her memory will rot!
When you hurt a woman, she will keep it in a special place in
her heart, so never hurt her. You must be very cautious in this
matter.
Whenever you hurt a woman through your words, you
are inviting a liability for your future. She will tolerate you for the
time being because you are stronger than her, but later when
you are weak and all your joints are creaking, she will take her
revenge, so watch out. I have witnessed this many times over.
That is why I advise men not to fight. “You fools! Don’t fight
with your wives. Do not bind any vengeance with your wives.
Otherwise you will create grave difficulties.”
By their true nature, our women are like goddesses. The
worldly interactions defile their true nature and they become
dangerous. She has the to go into an explosive rage if instigated