70 Harmony in Marriage
if she is tied up? The‘ societal pole’ is such that she cannot escape. If you hit someone who is tied down, you create tremendous misery for yourself in your life to come. What if she were not tied down and then you were to hit her? That is different and it would not be as serious. If she were not tied down, then she would be able to escape. But here she has the pressure of the society and therefore she cannot go anywhere. Otherwise she would be long gone. Try to hit her after getting a divorce. What would happen?
A real husband is one who never has any discord with his wife. Just as you would not let anything come between you and your friend, in the same manner you should do the same when dealing with her also. If you do not look out for your friend, your friendship will end. Friendship means friendship. You have to challenge her by saying,“ If you break this friendship of ours, then you will be at fault. Let us live in harmony as friends.”
There is so much sincerity in a friendship that the friend would say,“ I have a wonderful friend. He would never have a single negative thought about me.” In that same manner you cannot think badly of her either. Is she not considered more than a friend?
[ 18 ] SHE WILL AVENGE YOU WITH A SLEDGE HAMMER
Now if you both were to have an argument one night, she would have a tanto( prolonged inner anger and turmoil). The next morning, when serving you your tea, she would deliberately slam the cup down on the table. This would tell you that she has not quite recovered from the fight the night before. That verily is the link between the argument the night before and her current state of continued sulking.
Why does she continue sulking? It is because she wants