Harmony in Marriage
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that one will have to endure a lot of misery in the next life.
One lady told me she felt as if I was her father from her
past life. She was very nice and very cultured. I asked her how
she got along with her husband. She told me that he does not
say anything. He is always calm and composed. I asked her
surely some days they must have some disagreements. She said
no but sometimes he would make a cynical comment. I
understood. So I asked her what she would do when he made
sarcastic comments, I asked if she would strike back at him.
She replied, “No, I tell him that we are together due to the
unfolding of our karmas. I am separate and you are separate.
So why are you doing this? Why do have to make sarcastic
comments and what is all this about? No one is at fault here.
It is the fault of the unfolding of the karmas. So instead of
making sarcastic comments, why don’t you settle your karmas
with equanimity? Why should we clash?” I have seen many
women, but this is the only woman I have seen with such an
elevated understanding.
My inherent qualities are that of a kshatriya (warrior,
kingly class). Instilled within me, I have the ability to protect
those under me and I do not fear taking on my superiors. This
is the main quality of a kshatriya. I always protect my wife and
servants who depend on me, even when they are at fault. I
would not say anything to the poor man, but if it were someone
above me, I would fight with him. The world generally harasses
its subordinates. You idiot! Are you a woman? A woman would
treat a subordinate in this manner. What do you think of this?
You get married; bring her home, and then you keep
scolding her. What is this comparable to? It is like tying a cow
to a pole and flogging her. What would happen if you were to
tie her to a pole and kept hitting her? If you hit her from one
side, the poor thing will go to the other side. Where will she go