Harmony in Marriage
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out to dinner and make her happy. From now on, the sulking
should not linger and there should be no internal grudges against
each other.
So now that you have this Gnan, that problem will not
remain. If you have Gnan, then you will see the Real (Soul) in
your wife, first thing in the morning. You will have to see the
God in your wife, will you not? If you can see Dada in your
wife, then sa lvation is yours. When you look at your wife, can
you see Dada? You can see pure Soul. Then salvation is yours.
So adjust in any way you can. Time will pass and your
accounts will be cleared. You will have to honour your debts of
karma from your past life. For some debts it may take twenty-
five years, some, fifteen years, and others, thirty years. You
don’t have a choice. Even if you don’t like it, you will have to
stay within the same room. On one side, will be her bed and
on the other side will be your bed. Even if you turn around and
face the other direction, both of you will only have thoughts of
each other. There is no way out. The whole world is like this.
It is not just that you don’t like her, she doesn’t like you
either. So this world is not such that you can extract any real
enjoyment out of it.
Don’t see laws, please settle. Settle any conflict with
equanimity. Where do we have the time to tell the other person,
“Do it this way, settle it this way,”? Even if the other person has
made a hundred mistakes, you have to take it as your own fault
and just move on. There is no time to lose the fight against the
laws of the world, even if you are right. In this day and age, one
cannot afford to look at the law. This is a very serious matter.
You are at the end of your rope of infinite lives. Such
opportunity will not come again.
Questioner : Sometimes there is a major fight in the
home. What should we do?