Harmony in Marriage
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lock you up because such were the seeds of vengeance. It is
nothing but vengeance, and what is more, it was created in
ignorance. All consequences of acts done in ignorance will have
to be endured, without fail.
Now in order to let go of all the vengeance, come to me
and take this Gnan (knowledge) of Self-realization. All
vengeance will be dissolved. You have to let go of all the
vengeance and negative feelings in this very lifetime. I will show
you the way.
When the mosquitoes or the bedbugs bite, those bites are
much better than the bites from a husband or wife. Dealing with
all that, is very tough. Do husband and wife not bite eachother?
Questioner : Yes, they do.
Dadashri : So that biting needs to stop. The mosquitoes
will bite and leave when their stomachs are full. But the wife is
constantly biting her husband. One man told me, “My wife bites
me like a snake.” You fool! Then why did you marry this
snake? You have to be a snake in order to marry one!
If you had nothing to do with your wife after you quarrel
with her, then it would be a different matter, but you still have
to speak to her again, so the quarrelling in between is wrong.
I am always aware of the fact that after an hour or so we will
have to speak to each other again, therefore I never argue. It
would be a different matter altogether if your opinion were
never to change, or you were never to be with her again. Only
then your quarrelling would be acceptable, but here you will
have to sit and dine together the very next day. So does that
mean that all your quarrelling was just a drama? What
happened to the scene you created yesterday? Should you not
think about that?
The husband should be the first to repent. The husband