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Harmony in Marriage
Questioner : Yes, that is of importance.
Dadashri : There is nothing wrong in telling people off
when you are free from the weakness of attachment and
abhorrence. It is this weakness that is the problem.
Questioner : What should we do when we don’t want
to start any fights or arguments at all, but others in the house
start them daily?
Dadashri : You should become ‘fight-proof’. If you
become ‘fight-proof’ then will you be able to live in this world
peacefully. I will make you ‘fight-proof.’ You should become so
fight-proof that even the person that comes to fight with you
gets tired and gives up. No one in this world can depress you.
You have to become that way. If you become fight-proof, then
there are no problems. If others want to fight or swear at you,
even then there will be no objection or reaction. No one will
call you indifferent for being that way. On the contrary, your
internal awareness of Gnan (jagruti) will increase.
Whatever disputes you created in the past life, created
vengeance, and today it dissipates in the form of a dispute or
disagreement. A seed of revenge is planted at the time of
arguments, and this seed will grow in the next life.
Questioner : So how can you avoid sowing such seeds?
Dadashri : Slowly and steadily, if you keep on settling
your problems with equanimity you can prevent new seeds from
being sowed. If the causal karma was very heavy, you will have
to be patient because it will take time to solve. You have to do
a lot of pratikraman. Nobody will take anything away from
you. You have a shirt on your back and you get two meals a
day, what more do you need? They (your children) may lock
you up in your room before they go out, but at least you still
get two meals a day, so just rest and go to sleep quietly. They