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Harmony in Marriage
Questioner : Dada, you just used a very modern word.
Dadashri : What then? Only then will these arguments
stop. When two companions live in one room, they share all the
chores. That is how companionship is maintained.
Questioner : Is there any infatuation or fascination in
companionship?
Dadashri : There is attachment in it, but that attachment
is not like a fire. You need to recognize the force and the power
behind words. The words, ‘husband’ and ‘wife’ are filled with
intense infatuation and attachment, but that attachment becomes
weaker when you use the word ‘companion’.
One man had lost his wife twenty years ago. At that time,
a young boy came to me and asked me, “Shall I make this man
cry?” I asked him, “How are you going to do that? He would
not cry at this age.” The young man replied, “Just wait and see
how sensitive he is.” Then he started to talk to the man, “Uncle,
what a lady your wife was, what a great personality she had.”
When he said this, the old man started to cry. What a foolish
man, he still cries about his wife at the age of sixty. How foolish
are these people? People also cry at the movies, don’t they? If
someone dies in a movie, the people in the audience start
crying.
Questioner : So why can’t we get rid of this sense of
attachment?
Dadashri : You cannot get rid of it. That which you have
created by saying, “Mine, mine,” can only be undone by saying,
“Not mine, not mine.” All the knots you have created will have
to be unwound. All this is sheer attachment. There is nothing
real in it; there is no life in it. Every person here is nothing but
wound up toys.