Harmony in Marriage
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Wherever there is attachment, there is bound to be
accusations. That is the nature of attachment. When people
accuse each other of doing certain things or behaving a certain
way is due to attachment. Do people not say such things? They
say such things because of attachment.
Girls today choose their husbands after close scrutiny, but
later get angry with them. Do they not quarrel with their
husbands? So then you cannot call that love at all, can you?
Love should be unwavering. Whenever you see it, it is the same
love. That is where you will find consolation. Here you may
have love for her but if the next day she is shouts, then you will
think to yourself, “To hell with this love. Dump it in the sewer!”
What good is such a love, when she walks around sulking all
the time? What do you think?
Human nature is such that wherever there is excessive
love, (love with attachment and expectations; conditional love),
therein there exists an undercurrent of abhorrence and repulsion.
On the way to the movies, a couple starts off in a state
of mutual excitement and infatuation. On their way back home,
the repulsion starts, they get into a fight. He tells her, ‘you have
not sense’ and she responds, ‘and what wisdom do you have?’
In this manner they both come home talking and arguing. He
looks for sense and she is looking for wisdom.
One can only improve with real love. All these people
have felt my love and have improved. Love is my real nature,
and hence there is no scope for discord. Whenever I say things
to people, I speak with nothing but love and that is why nothing
spoils. If I were to speak with even a hint of dislike, it would
ruin everything.
Questioner : Please explain the difference between real
love and love associated with attachment.