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Harmony in Marriage
the moment he sat down under the chori, he kept winding the
knots of ‘my wife’ in this manner, and that winding continues till
this moment, so just imagine how many knots he has wound.
How is he going to unwind these knots? These are the knots of
mamta (attachment).
I told him that from that moment on, he would have to
keep reciting, “Not mine, not mine, not mine.” He would have
to keep telling himself, “This woman is not mine, she is not
mine.” This way all the knots he had tied, would unravel. If you
have tied fifty thousand knots by saying “Mine, mine, mine,”
then by saying “Not mine, not mine, not mine,” fifty thousand
times over, you will free yourself from your attachment. What
is this meaningless obsession?
So then what did he do? For three days, he kept saying,
“She is not mine, she is not mine, she is not mine,” and by doing
he was able to stop crying. His grief vanished. All these are
merely knots that we have entwined and it is because of these
knots that we suffer. All such suffering is false. Do you
understand what I am saying? Now who is going to show you
such a simple, straightforward way?
All day long you should continue doing pratikraman for
your husband. When you do this, six months worth of ill feelings
will be destroyed in just one day. Even if you do it for half a
day, at least three months will be cleared. Did you have any
attachment with your husband before you got married? No. So
when did this attachment start? It was decided when the two of
you sat across from each other under the wedding canopy and
you thought to yourself, “This is my husband. He is a little
plump and dark-skinned.” He too, decided, “This is my wife.”
From that moment onwards these knots of, “My, my,” started.
This film has been going on for fifteen years, and it will only
unwind, if you say, “He is not mine, he is not mine.” Only then,