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Harmony in Marriage
Those who harbour doubts lose their harmony and liberation.
So if you want to be liberated you should cast off all doubts.
Besides if you happen to see another man walking with his arm
around your wife, are you going to commit suicide?
So if you have any suspicions about anyone, do not
harbour them. Be cautious, but do not be suspicious. Suspicions
will kill you. Suspicions are such that they will not leave you
until you die. Regardless of what may happen to the other
person, your suspicion will surely kill you, because suspicion
will not leave you until you die. Suspicion makes a person live
like a corpse.
[12] FAULT OF DOMINANCE IN A HUSBAND
Questioner : There are some men who run away from
home because they get tired of their wives. What is that?
Dadashri : No, why should we become a runaway? We
are pure Souls, what is the need for us to become runaways?
We have to settle all matters with equanimity with our wives.
Questioner : I want to settle everything with equanimity,
but how do I go about doing that? Should I accept it in my
mind as a past account?
Dadashri : You cannot settle matters by just doing that
alone. Settling with equanimity means you have to make a
‘phone call’ to the other person’s Soul. You must notify her
Soul. You must admit and accept your mistakes to that Soul.
You have to repent strongly and ask for forgiveness.
Questioner : Do I have to do pratikraman (Dada’s
prescribed technique of confession, repentance, asking for
forgiveness, and vowing never to repeat the mistake) even if
someone insults me?
Dadashri : Do pratikraman only when they insult you,