Harmony in Marriage
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not when they praise you. When you do pratikraman, feelings
of hatred for that person will not arise at all. On the contrary,
you will have a positive effect on him. In the first stage of your
pratikraman, you will become aware of the fact that you do
not have any abhorrence or negative feelings for him. Later on,
the other person will also feel the positive effects of your
pratikraman.
Questioner : Does it reach his Soul?
Dadashri : Yes, definitely. His Soul will nudge his
pudgal (the physical body; the complex of thoughts, speech,
and acts), “There is a phone call for you!” This pratikraman
of ours is meant to destroy aggressive thoughts, speech, and
acts.
Questioner : Do we have to do a lot of pratikraman?
Dadashri : If you want to build a house quickly, you will
have to employ more builders. It is fine if you cannot do
pratikraman for outsiders, but you must do a lot of pratikraman
for those around you and those who are close to you. For the
people in your home, you should keep the intention that, “These
people are born close to me, they live together with me and
some day they should take advantage of this wonderful science
of liberation.”
A man once came to me and said, “Dada I am married
now, but I do not like my wife.” I asked him his reason, and
he told me he did not like her because she walked with a limp.
So I asked him “Does your wife like you?” He replied, “Dada,
I am a likeable person! I am handsome, educated, I earn good
money, and I do not have any deformities.” I told him, “Then
the fault is yours. What kind of a mistake did you make to
deserve a limping wife like her and what good karma did she
have to get a great husband like you? Listen here, it is all your