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Harmony in Marriage
climb a bunch or stairs or a mountain.” Conduct your worldly
interaction in a manner, which people appreciate.
Questioner : In which matters should a wife not interfere
in her husband’s affairs?
Dadashri : She must not interfere in any of her
husband’s affairs. “How much merchandise came into the shop
today? How much merchandise did you sell? Why did you
come late?” The husband would then have to say, “I missed the
nine o’clock train!” Then she would question, “What were you
doing that you missed the train?” which causes him to become
irritated. He thinks that even if God asked him such questions,
he would let him have it. But what can he do here? There is
unnecessary interference. It is like being served a good meal
with grit in it! How can it taste good? Men and women should
help each other. If the husband has worries, then the wife’s main
concern should be to find ways to reduce his worries. The
husband should see that his wife is not placed in a difficult
situation. The husband should realize how difficult the children
can be. If things break in the house, men should not say even
a word, but instead they complain, “Last time I bought the best
cups and saucers and you broke them. You have destroyed
everything.” The wife will then think, “Did I break them
deliberately? What can I do if they break? What can I do?”
There is quarrelling even in such trivial matters. Why start
quarrelling when there is nothing to gain? Where there is
absolutely no reason to fight, why even start?
From the beginning, when I was young, I had made this
division: the kitchen was hers and the business was mine. When
I was young, I used to get very angry if any female member of
our joint household asked me questions regarding the business
accounts. This was not their business. People ask without any
connection or cause. If you ask questions, there must be some