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connection or a reason to do so. If Hiraba were to ask me,
“How much did you earn this year?” I would tell her that she
did not have the right to ask me such a question because it was
my personal matter. The reason for this is, if I let her ask me
such questions today, and tomorrow I decide to give 500
rupees to someone, she would meddle in my business and
complain about the money being gone. So do not interfere in
people’s personal matters.
[11] SUSPICION IS SELF DESTRUCTIVE
Most conflicts at home arise from doubts and suspicions.
Suspicion gives rise to vibrations, which then ignite into flames.
If a person were to become free of all suspicions, then these
flames would extinguish. But if both the husband and wife start
to become suspicious, then the flames would burn everything.
One of them would have to become free of doubt. Quarrels
between parents are the primary cause of emotional instability
in children. In order to save their children, both parents must
come to an understanding, bringing an end to all quarrelling.
Who would be able to remove these suspicions? This Gnan of
ours is such that it completely extinguishes your suspicions.
One man became suspicious of his wife. Would he be
able to stop being suspicious of her? No! Such suspicion is a
lifelong suspicion. Similarly the wife had suspicions about her
husband, and that too, would not go away for a lifetime.
Questioner : What can we do, when suspicions arise
against our wishes?
Dadashri : Possessiveness, a sense of ownership, “He is
my husband,” is the cause. There is nothing wrong in having a
husband or even saying or referring to him as ‘my husband,’ but
there must not be any attachment or possessiveness within.
Aim for two things in life, superficial trust and superficial