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Harmony in Marriage
away from this ego?
Dadashri : You are right it is not easily done. To remedy
that, you have to practice doing it for a few days. For a few
days, practice what I am saying, and then it will happen. It will
not happen immediately.
Questioner : What is the reason behind this discord?
Dadashri : The differences occur because the husband
thinks he is intelligent and the wife thinks she is intelligent. Here
come two bags full of intelligence! You wouldn’t even get a
dime if you were to sell these bags! Instead, be aware and
observe her intelligence…oh my! How intelligent she is! That
way even she will calm down. But if you exercise your intellect
and she does the same, there will be a fight.
Who experiences more discord, you or her?
Questioner : She is the one who gets upset more.
Dadashri : What is discord? Let me explain. Have you
ever played the game of tug-of-war?
Questioner : Yes.
Dadashri : Two teams of players will pull a rope at
opposite ends. Conflict is synonymous to a game of tug-of-war.
What will happen if you both are pulling strongly at opposite
ends?
Questioner : It will break.
Dadashri : If it breaks, you will have to tie a knot in it.
Instead of having to tie a knot, what is wrong with simply
leaving the rope intact? If she pulls hard, you should just let go.
Questioner : But of the two, who should be the first to
let go?