Harmony in Marriage
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you, if she were to leave? She is bound to you through karma,
so where can that poor lady go? What you are telling her will
not go to waste. Instead it will leave a wound on her heart, and
then come back to you later you fool. You will have to suffer
the effect of this karma. You might think to yourself, “Where
would she go? You must never say such things. It is a very
grave mistake if you do. All you men here have used such
taunts sometime or the other, have you not?
Questioner : Yes, we have. Everyone has done it. There
are no exceptions. The intensity of the taunts may be different,
but there are no exceptions.
Dadashri : So this is what everything is like. Now tell
me, I have to make all these men wise! How will they become
wise? They move about with frowns on their faces; they look
as if they just drank some castor oil. They eat such delicious
meals cooked by their wives, and yet their faces look like they
just drank some castor oil.
Questioner : What should one do to get rid of discord
at home?
Dadashri : First investigate what causes the discord. If
you have a son and a daughter, do you ever disagree about the
fact that both of them are not sons?
Questioner : No, the differences occur over very trivial
matters.
Dadashri : Oh in these trivial matters, it is simply egoism
at fault. If she says something, you should say, “That is fine.”
That is the end of it. But instead, you use your intellect, which
then clashes with the other intellect, causing discord.
Questioner : What should I do to be able to say, “That
is okay,” to my wife? I am not able to say that. How can I keep