Harmony in Marriage 17
bang on anything . Your tea will be ready and waiting for you whether you create negative vibrations or not . But by creating vibrations you will add to your account ( karmic ) and some day she will remind you , of the day that you were banging your fists on the table .
People do not have the ability to solve problems with their spouses or their children and when clashes occur they fall deeper into confusion .
Questioner : The husband believes that it is his wife who must compromise , and not him .
Dadashri : Yes that means the limit has been reached . If the wife has to compromise and he won ’ t , it means that things have come to head . A gentleman on the other hand , would speak in a manner that would make his wife happy . He would move forward in this way , but you conduct yourself in such a way that your situation stagnates for weeks and months on end . Nothing gets resolved . Unless there is closure in the mind of the opposing party , you will have difficulties . Therefore , you must compromise .
How can you accept this discord at home ? When the wife says , “ I am yours ,” and the husband says , “ I am yours ,” where is there room for any discord ? As problems between the two of you increase , a separation between you will begin . There is pain in separation . Everyone has problems , not just you . Anyone who gets married will have such problems . But after these problems are solved , you will not feel a mental separation . Any sense of separation causes pain .
How can you have problems with your wife ? A person with whom … Do you have a double bed or a single ?
bed .
Questioner : No please forgive me . We only have one