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Harmony in Marriage
Dadashri : Your wife may say, “You do not have an
ounce of common sense!” Are you pleased by such a
statement?
Questioner : But then she also says, “I like no one but
you.”
Dadashri : Yes, she will say that too!
Questioner : But people living together are bound to
argue.
Dadashri : How can you afford to accept arguments
that occur every day? You have accepted this because you do
not understand. Those who are aware of the real nature of this
world would lose sleep even over a minor difference of opinion.
Husbands and wives have vibrations. They emit vibrations even
as they lay in bed thinking, “He is awkward, he is useless, he
deserves to be thrown out!” Only living beings can emit
vibrations. Those, which are not living, do not create vibrations.
Without any understanding, people come to accept that discord
is inevitable with married couples. You fool! Nobody has ever
seen this Dada quarrel. Why all this noise? All this noise is
ultimately harmful to only you. We ourselves are responsible for
these conflicts. Is it ever someone else’s responsibility? If you
bang your fists on the dinning table because your tea is not
ready, who is in danger? Instead it is better to remain sitting like
a dummy! If you get your cup of tea, it is good and well, but,
if you do not get it, then just go to work. What’s wrong with
doing that? Even a cup of tea has its timing does it not? Every
event has a time and a place. This world is exact. Nothing
happens outside the laws of nature. That is why I have said
everything is ‘vyavasthit’ (event that occurs as a result of
countless scientific circumstantial evidences coming together).
When the time comes for you to get your tea, you will get your
tea, regardless of your temper tantrums. You do not need to