Harmony in Marriage
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is bad for you. Then there will be an end to the conflicts at
home.
Lord Krishna has said there are two kinds of intellect,
one is helpful and the other is harmful. The harmful intellect
brings forth only pain and misery while the helpful intellect
brings forth happiness and seeks out happiness amidst pain and
suffering. But what do people do instead? They put grit in their
basmati rice and then they eat it! Here in America you get such
good food, pure ghee and pure yogurt. Life is easy, but people
do not know how to live, and that is why they suffer.
We should be thinking about what is beneficial to us.
Which of the following is more beneficial, recalling the
happiness you experienced on your wedding day or remembering
the sorrow of becoming a widower?
The thought of becoming a widower came to me during
our marriage ceremony. On my wedding day I was wearing a
very stylish and elaborate turban, a kind that royalty would
wear at weddings. Dressed in this manner even as a fifteen-
year-old groom, I looked very handsome. My attire was
bedecked and impressive. Later, as the wedding ceremony was
in progress, the turban on my head shifted, obstructing my view.
It occurred to me then, that it was fair and well that we were
getting married, but one day one of us would have to become
a widow.
Questioner : You had such thoughts at that young an
age?
Dadashri : Yes, unfortunately! Whatever is built has to
break one day.
Questioner : The intense desire to experience marriage
makes one forget his real Self (Soul). Where is the time for such
thoughts of detachment in marriage?