6 Harmony in Marriage
break the dishes , would she do so ? Who or what breaks them ? There is no person in this world with an independent strength or power to break even a single dish . All these events that take place are accounts that are being settled , and therefore all you have to do is ask her whether or not she was hurt .
If you both fight over a couch , then throw that couch away . That couch is worth only a few hundred dollars . Is it worth fighting over ? It will only sow seeds of hatred . Just get rid of it . Anything that causes conflicts in the home should be thrown away .
The more you understand , the greater your faith . With faith you will acquire results . Without faith , nothing will help you . If you do things with understanding , your life will be happy and it will make her life happy too . Does your wife not cook you wonderful meals ?
Questioner : Yes , she does .
Dadashri : What more do you need then ? Shouldn ’ t you be obligated to her since she is your partner ? What is her obligation in this ? You bring home the money and she cooks and cleans . This is the way a partnership works . The children are the products of your partnership . They are not solely hers , are they ? Just because she was the one who went through pregnancy does not mean that they belong only to her . Your children belong to the both of you . Do they belong to you both or her alone ?
Questioner : Both of us .
Dadashri : Yes . Would men be willing to go through pregnancy ? Therefore , this world is worth understanding . It needs to be understood from many different perspectives . Only a Gnani Purush can make you understand the world as it is . He enables you to understand what is good for you and what