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Harmony in Marriage
Dadashri : However at that time, the thought occurred
to me that whatever had begun, would eventually come to an
end. Of the two of us, one of us would be widowed.
When you got married in the presence of all your guests
and relatives, with the Sun and the priest as your witnesses, the
mantra chanted by the priest was, “Samaya varte savdhan,”
(Exercise caution according to the event in time). The priest
understands what he is saying when he says, “Samaya varte
savdhan!” but does the person getting married understand it?
What does this mantra mean? It means that when your wife
loses her temper, you should remain calm and alert. Only then,
do you qualify for marriage. If she gets angry and you get angry
too, then you have not exercised caution in time. When she gets
upset, you should calm things down. Is it not necessary for you
to be cautious? I had remained cautious. I never allowed any
discord in my marriage. The moment any discord started, I
would bring out the ‘welding kit’.
Questioner : What is the root cause of all conflicts?
Dadashri : Tremendous ignorance. Men and women do
not know how to live in this world. A man does not know how
to be a father and neither does he know how to be a husband.
Similarly, a woman does not know how to be a wife. They do
not know the art of living. With all the material comforts,
benefits, and conveniences, there is still so much misery. People
live in the ocean of bliss and yet they are searching for a drop
of water!
Questioner : But isn’t quarrelling due to the differences
in personality?
Dadashri : It is because of ignorance. In this world, no
two personalities can ever match. After acquiring this
understanding, there is only one solution, and that is, “Adjust