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“timings” match, (i.e. only get married if you are compatible).
All the happiness that you have derived from this
dependency on sex as a means of pleasure is all borrowed
happiness; it is on loan to you, and because it is a loan, you will
have to pay it back.
You are not enjoying the happiness of the Soul, but
instead you have asked for happiness from the body. There is
no problem if you take happiness from the Soul, but you have
borrowed it from the body and so you will have to pay it back.
This is a loan. Whatever pleasure you derived from that loan,
you will have to repay by an equivalent amount of suffering.
Whatever has been borrowed from the body will have to be
paid back to the body.
Some people tell me their wives make them beg for sex.
I tell them, “You fool! What do you expect when you have no
dignity left?” By doing this you have nothing left. Smarten up
and become a Yogi (ascetic).
One woman would make her husband prostrate in front
of her four times before she would let him touch her. You
imbecile! Why not commit suicide instead? Why don’t you take
a terminal dip in the ocean? At least the ocean is straight
forward, and there won’t be any problems there. You prostrate
four times for this?
Questioner : In the past life I probably had clashed with
her. In this she has clashes with me. We will have to find a way
out of this. What is the solution?
Dadashri : There is a solution for it, but people are
mentally weak. The solution is to stop the inclination towards
sex. Only then will everything else stop automatically. All the
arguments continue because of your inclination for sexual
pleasure.