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Harmony in Marriage
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It is sex and sexual desires that are the root cause. Out
of your sexual desire arises delusion and this delusion destroys
Gnan. Sex is the biggest obstacle; it is the root cause that
deludes you. Delusion creates desire for wealth and excess
wealth exacerbates the ego. If sexual desires dissipate, all else
vanishes.
Questioner : So we should know how to destroy the
seed, the root cause, but how can we do that?
Dadashri : It can be done through the process of
pratikraman; through alochana (recalling mistake),
pratikramam (repent for wrongdoing), and pratyakhyan
(decision not to repeat it).
Questioner : That is all? Is there no other solution?
Dadashri : There is no other solution. If you do tap
(penance) then you bind good karma. And by destroying the
root cause, you get results; you become free form the
entanglements of karma. What does the law of settling with
equanimity state? It states that you must make sure that you do
whatever you can to prevent binding vengeance with the other
party. Become free from vengeance.
Questioner : How does the binding of vengeance take
place? How are the seeds of vengeance from countless
previous lives, planted?
Dadashri : You will not bind vengeance with a dead man
or a dead woman. Vengeance is bound through interactions
with the living beings.
Questioner : Why does that happen?
Dadashri : It is because of differences of opinions. You
may want to go to a movie whereas she may want to go to a
play. The “timing” does not match. So marry only if the