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Questioner : Now how can we do this? How can we
stop it now?
Dadashri : Conquer sex.
Questioner : It is because we are not able to conquer
sex that we are here at your feet.
Dadashri : Sex for so many years. Sex even in your old
age? Wherever you see it is sex, sex and sex.
Questioner : We have stopped but our quarrelling has
not ceased, that is why we are at your feet, Dada.
Dadashri : That can never be. I have seen that wherever
sex has stopped, wherever men have become strong willed,
wherever their minds have become strong, their wives absolutely
abide by what they say.
There is no other solution other than stopping sex with
your wife. The root cause of attachment and abhorrence is sex.
The original, main cause is sex. This is the starting point of the
world. Therefore, if a person wants to stop this cycle of
recurrent worldly life, then he has to stop sex.
People who do not want any clash and who do not side
with quarrelling, for them the quarrelling will continue to occur
but it will gradually decrease. But as long as one believes that
clashes are necessary, then clashes will continue to increase.
We should not support any quarrelling or clashes. Those who
have made a firm decision not to be involved in clashes, will
encounter very few clashes. Wherever there is clash, God is not
present.
You need to put a stop to this system of double beds and
keep single beds and sleep separate from each other in your
own single beds.
From the time my sexual interactions stopped with my