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Dadashri : Where is the mother? Where is the father?
If a person loses his leg in an accident, will he not live without
it for the remainder of his life, or will he commit suicide over it?
In the same token put up with a crippled marriage.
You do not find your husband undesirable now, but when
you do, what will you do? Even if he is not of a sound mind,
you married him, and that makes him your husband. You should
say, “Mine is the best of all.” There is no such thing as a bad
husband in this world.
Questioner : If we say he is the best, it would go to his
head.
Dadashri : No it will not. The poor man works outside
all day long, when does he have time to misbehave? Regardless
of what your husband is like, you must accept him. Is it right for
you to go out and get another one? Can you buy one? When
you try to correct your situation by getting a divorce, it is not
acceptable to the world. Other men will also ask whether she
is a divorcee. So where else can you go? Instead just stick to
one and settle your accounts. How many husbands do we
change as Indians? This one that you have, whatever he is like,
he is the real one, so deal with it and settle your account. As
for men, whatever your wife is like, even if she fights and acts
up, it is better to accept her. It is not as if she is eating you alive,
she just keeps yelling and shouting at you. At least she is not
physically abusing you. Really she is just a ‘radio’, but you are
not able to truly understand all this. You may feel she is the one
perpetuating the conflict, but later on even she regrets saying
the things she did. Therefore, is she the one doing the talking or
is it the radio?
In Bombay there was a lady whose marriage was falling
apart. Her husband was secretly having an affair. When she
found out, there were terrible rows at home. She came to me