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should not have any differences of opinion whatsoever. With
such differences of opinions, discord and clashes will result,
leading to loss of humility. Differences of opinions results in
clashes and separation of inner oneness of minds, which in turn,
leads to a miserable relationship and eventually a divorce.
Questioner : Our marriage is in trouble. We clash with
eachother a lot. We are concerned. Please help us.
Dadashri : That is exactly what I am saying. It is not
good. It does not look good to the world. There is no meaning
in all this. There is still a chance for improvement. As long as
you are in the human body, you have a chance to improve the
situation. Why should it be like this anyway? Why create
negative public scenes? You will have to understand a little bit
at least, will you not? Do you understand? You have to be
superficial in these matters. So many of you men have taken the
role of a dhani (dominating husbands). You fools! Why are you
behaving as if you own your wives? You are a husband only as
long as you are living, or as long as you are not divorced. You
could be divorced tomorrow. Then whom will you dominate?
Questioner : Nowadays, many people get divorced.
They have small children, and the parents leave them. Are they
not liable for the children’s nisaso (the negative effects of
children’s grief on parents resulting in negative karmic bondage)?
Dadashri : Yes, they will be liable, but what can they
do? Truly speaking they should not get divorced. Really they
should tolerate each other for the sake of the children. It would
not have mattered if they divorced before having children, but
if they divorce after having children, they will have to suffer from
their children’s nisaso.
Questioner : If the husband has a mind that does not
work and he does not do any work, he does not know how to