The Guru and the Disciple
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Dadashri: That is correct. Now, guru is an adjective. The
word guru is not itself guru. It is guru through the adjective of
guru; for example, with certain adjectives, one is a guru, and with
certain adjectives, one is a God!
Questioner: What are the qualities of a true guru?
Dadashri: The true guru is one that has love and is beneficial
to you. Where can you find such real gurus? Such a guru is one
where just at the mere sight of him, your whole body will bow
down in reverence, spontaneously without a thought. That is why
they sing:
‘Who can be called a guru? It is the one whose very
sight makes our heads bow.’
Just upon seeing him, our head will bow. That is the definition
of a guru. That is why if one is a guru, then he must be such that he
dissolves all egos. Then you can attain liberation, but not otherwise.
The Guru that fills your eyes and rests your heart
Questioner: Then there is the question, ‘Whom should I
make my guru?’
Dadashri: Where your heart rests; make that person your
guru. Do not call him your guru until your heart becomes
completely still. That is why I have said if you make someone
your guru; make sure it is someone whose image does not leave
your ‘eyes’.
Questioner: What do you mean by ‘does not leave your
eyes’?
Dadashri: When a young man wants to get married, he
goes to look at different young women. He will meet and see
many girls. What is he looking for? He is looking for the kind of
woman who would be acceptable in every way. If she is fat, she
will feel heavy to his eyes. If she is very skinny then he feels hurt;